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Chronically Late or Feeling In A Hurry?

Have you ever found yourself chronically being late or feeling in a hurry?  I used to be chronically late to a teaching position I had when I lived in Buffalo, NY.  I would almost never be really late, but I was more times than not, 1-5 minutes late for the start of class.  Almost every Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning I would find myself rushing out the door and in a hurry while driving, hurrying to try to find a parking spot and then rushing off to class, to arrive… late.  I found this same pattern happening again after having a child.  I would stay and play to the last possible minute and rush off, or I would not give myself enough time for both of us to get what we needed and get out the door to arrive where I needed to go on time.  There is a lot to be said for being on time, and some practical solutions that can help you to put being on time into practice to create a more stress free existence.

images-2Singularly, the greatest tool we have is our emotions. They are a reflection of mind in the body and consequently give us the greatest amount of information about where our thoughts and our attention are being directed.  One of the first things I do when I notice that this pattern of being late or feeling hurried arises, is to look at how it is helping me to feel.  Is it helping me to feel hurried or in a rush?  Short and snappy with others, especially the ones I love?  Feeling a sense of hurry can reveal to us that we are afraid.  Where there is hurry, there is fear.  Ask yourself what it is that you are afraid of?

What kinds of fears reside in the act of being late?  There are many fears that come up when people are afraid of being late.  Some people I have worked with have a fear of showing up and receiving love.  Some people are afraid of getting fired and all of the implications of that, or they are afraid of someone else getting angry, or not being accepted, ending up alone.  The list of varying fears that this creates is many.  The key is to see what it is doing for you and how you can change it with an action, or through your perception of the situation.

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Let’s start with some simple actions you can take that can help you to arrive on time more often.  Here is a short list of ideas that may assist you:

1)    Wake up 15 minutes earlier in the morning

2)    What tasks can be done the night before that could assist you in saving time the next day?  Can you make/put together part or all of your child’s lunch the night before?  Can you do that for your lunch?  Can you brush and braid their hair so you don’t have to do that in the morning?  Can you organize all of your work and/or workout materials so they are ready to go?  Can you pick out your clothes and/or your child’s clothes?

3)    KNOW when you realistically have to leave to get to where you are going, on time.  This would include giving yourself some extra time in case you encounter much of the inevitable: road construction, school buses, heavy traffic, etc.

4)    Making a “To Do” list can also be helpful in arriving places on time.  When we are not clear on what we are doing with our time or with our purpose throughout the day, we can waste a lot of time in low priority activities.  What might one of these “low priority activities” be?  Well, how many times have you gone to the store to get something for dinner and ended up spending much longer and getting much more than what you needed or intended on buying?  Other examples might be using social media sites or watching TV longer than intended.  These things can be distracting to our purpose, but when we are clear on what we would like to accomplish with our time and energy throughout the day, we are able to make sure we stay energized by fulfilling our higher priority activities, which leads to living an energized and inspired life.

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5)    Above, are all actions, so what exactly can one do to perceive the situation differently?  Sometimes all it can take is a moment of self-reflection/awareness to recognize the fact that you are not going to be on time and that there is nothing you can do about it at this point. Instead, take a deep breath and let go of the idea of being on time or what it means that you are late.  This can also create some space to think about how things could go differently next time and how you want things to go differently next time.

6)    Another question to ask that may shift your perception of the event or how you relate to it is: What is this doing for me, or how is this feeling serving me?  Often, people don’t see feeling guilty or angry as serving them, but if we remember that anger just shows us where we want to feel empowered in our lives, it can lead us to having thoughts or creating actions that bring us to that end.  Guilt, is a form of self blame, and when we grow tired of being the victim in our own lives through guilt, blame and shame, we can see that being on time can serve to eliminate these self destructive and defeating behaviors and thoughts.

Lastly, being on time is about loving ourselves.  When we are late, there are often feelings of anger, blame, resentment, guilt, shame and other fear based thoughts.  This is a way that we beat our selves up and feed our inner critics.  It is also a way that we blame others and take our anger out on them.  So, it is not your kids or that stupid driver ahead of you that is making you late.  Simply put, IT IS YOU.  You are the one responsible for your time and what you do with it and you are the only one that can change the habit of being late and the feelings you have with it.  No one I know really wants to start their day out with fear, but many I know do.  Giving yourself the gift of time and having a purpose in how you will use it, is truly a great act of self-love.  If you think of how many times you have seen someone get grumpy, reactive, harsh and sharp when they are in a hurry, why would you want to do that to yourself on a regular basis?  Our time is our greatest asset and you can use it as a tool to cultivate space, peace and love, or when undirected or without purpose, it can feed our fears, create anxiety, and anger.

The choice is up to you.  Try some of these simple solutions and see how the experience of your day changes.  The more you are able to be on time the more you will see how life can feel so much more “in the flow”. Many people experience less anger and frustration and more joy and balance emotionally and mentally.

The Power of Space

Recently inspired by this post from Nassim Haramein, I got to thinking about the implications of creating mental and emotional space within our selves. Here is the original post from his group called The Resonance Project, and I will expound upon this concept below.

“The one thing that connects all things is SPACE.
Perhaps the greatest error in the standard model of physics is the fact that they ignore the fact that the vacuum of space is not empty – it’s actually completely full with energy! When we look at the vacuum at the smallest scales possible we see that it is highly energized with what are called “vacuum fluctuations”, also known as the aether, the plenum, the zero point field, the quantum foam, space and the vacuum. Regardless of what you call it, the fact is we have measured the emptiness of space as not empty at all, yet in the standard model they simply sweep this number under the rug using a mathematical trick called “renormalization” and then proceed about their business writing their field equations as if it was not significant despite the fact that the measured value of the energy present in a cubic centimeter of space is 39 orders of magnitude denser than all of the regular matter of the entire universe squashed into a cubic centimeter! No wonder they are unable to find this mysterious “dark matter”. They can’t find it like a fish can’t find water because we are bathing in and made of an infinitely dense super-fluid medium we call space that happens to appear to us as “nothing” because it’s in a perfect state of balanced equilibrium due to the perfect scalar geometry of the space itself! Scalar cube octahedrons that Buckminster Fuller called the vector equilibrium are created by an infinite tetrahedral array.” ~ Nassim Haramein

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Creating Mental and Emotional Space
I found this information to be very exciting because of its implications relative to consciousness. When we break through limiting patterns and stories, we create space in our inner Being with our awareness. By bringing balance to our thoughts, emotions and perceptions of events and situations in our lives, we are able to come to a place of gratitude and unconditional love for those things and our lives as they are. The energy of this space is infused with unconditional love and gratitude because these two things are inherent qualities that are found within states of equilibrium and balance. This is the reason why when we balance our perceptions we are literally expanding the capacity of the world to contain more love and gratitude on a massive scale. In other words, by becoming more unified within ourselves we are enabling the world to come closer and closer to the reality of unity consciousness. When we come closer to balanced equilibrium we become closer to Source Itself and we have greater access to the information and energy that is part of the field we are all connected to and swimming in. This is how we can make the Great Mystery more tangible.

The space and time in your innermost dominant thought determines your outermost tangible reality… -Dr. John DeMartini

By doing this work we are also literally creating space in our minds. When we break through a life-long pattern or story, we rewire our neurophysiology. The neurons that were once all connected to this pattern of thought and emotion become loosed and ready for new input and new patterns of thought and Being. It is akin to upgrading our operating system. We can begin to function, act and perceive on new levels. This has a ripple affect on the existing reality that is before us. You literally change your point of attraction and hence, the forms that appear in your life and how you perceive them. If this space is 39 orders of magnitude denser than all of the regular matter of the entire universe squashed into a cubic centimeter, then opening up our capacity to hold just a little bit more of that can have far reaching effects that are beyond much of what we are able to comprehend at this time. The message that I take away from this is that by doing our inner work, we are revolutionizing the face of the world in greater ways than we can imagine and opening doors to ever-greater possibilities and potentialities for humanity.